Man dragged for aggressive rant to maid of honor of fiance

Members of a popular Internet forum called a man who explained why he threatened to remove his fiancée’s maid from the couple’s wedding party.

one in reddit r/AmITheA**hole, post published on Redditor u/meatdefeater88 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or the OP) said that the maid of honor hates her “for no reason” and recalled the brutal confrontation that left her Wondered if there was a reason after all.

title, “[Am I the a**hole] For threatening to throw my wife’s maid out of our marriage?” Post Nearly 5,000 votes and 1,800 comments have been received in the last day.

Describing her fiancée’s maid as a “huge b**ch”, the original poster was adamant that she hates him for “literally no reason”, but speculated about that animosity when from whom they had met.

“She was too cold for me and very clearly disapproving of me and asked my now fiancé several times why she was with me,” the OP wrote. “I think it’s partly because my presence has made a big difference in my fiancé’s life.

“She used to be a little more [loose] with his morals, partyed a lot, drank too much, and all these things [her maid of honor] still does,” the OP continued. “I also think a part of him is jealous and angry that [my fiancée] Found myself a good person.”

Given that the couple plans to wed early next year, the original poster also states that at their recent engagement party, tensions between her and the maid of honor came to a head, and escalated. Boiled all the way out.

“She would look at me across the room, not having fun, and trying [to bring] Mood down,” the OP wrote. “I decided it was a good time to settle things.”

“I told her that my fiancé chose me, not her. I said she needed to let go of her silly little resentment towards me,” Opie continued. “I reminded her it was my wedding and she i could get him out of it So fast.”

,[She] Was clearly annoyed and upset…[and] I told my fiancé what I said and she told me I was a huge dick and I needed to apologize,” the OP said. “I was accused of being passive aggressive and rude.”

Win over partner’s friends Can be a slog and can sometimes feel like an impossible task.

win over fiancé maid of honor who doubles as her best friend And seemingly hating can make you feel worse.

On the Internet, in forums like Quora and Reddit, and outlets like Bustle and The Knot, men and women have wondered why they feel hated by their partner’s friends and tried to understand how they could change it.

But changing the feelings of a close friend is easier said than done and, in some cases, may not be achieved at all.

In a 2019 article examining these types of strained relationships, Bustle recommends a myriad of possible solutions, including taking a step back, trying to understand the opposite perspective and, if the situation improves, something to bond. Includes general search.

And if all else fails, respect for the relationship is ultimately most important and friendship cannot be forced between people who don’t like each other.

“No matter how much you want to work, no one will be happy about being coerced,” Maria Sullivan, VP of, said in an interview with Bustle. “Over time, the pressure of the situation is likely to subside and create opportunities for relationships to improve.”

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Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum were outraged when a man explained why he aggressively confronted his fiancé’s maid at their engagement party.
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For the original poster, however, improved relationships don’t seem to be on the table.

At the end of her viral Reddit post, the original poster said that her fiancé demanded her apologize for her maid of honor. The original poster said he would apologize, but only after the maid of honor apologized to him.

She refuses and OP admits that her fiancé feels it was wrong to verbally attack her maid.

Redditors reacting to the viral post agreed.

“I don’t have enough information, so I can’t explain why, but I have a [a**hole] Vibe from you,” Redditor u/TheGreatSwanRonson wrote in the top comment of the post, which has garnered more than 14,000 votes.

,[You’re the a**hole],” Redditor u/katana1369 wrote in a separate comment that received over 5,000 votes. “I don’t think you’re being passive aggressive. You’re just being aggressive.”

,[You’re the a**hole],” echoed Redditor u/penguin_squeak, receiving nearly 5,000 votes. “After reading your post, I understand why your fiancé’s friend doesn’t like you at all.”

Redditor u/Amesaskew, whose comment has garnered more than 4,000 votes, offered a similar, but more specific, response.

“You lost me in ‘loose morals,'” he wrote. “Anyone who talks like this is a a**hole. She probably doesn’t like you because you talk like a condescending a**hole.”

Newsweek reached out to u/meatdefeater88 for comment.

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